Just Say No

17 06 2008

Don’t you hate it when you over-commit? Or worse yet, commit to things you don’t even want to do just because a friend asks you and you feel bad saying no to them? Mr President is currently regretting doing both. Not only is he feeling the burn of having too much to do and not enough time in the day to do it, but now he’s been roped into something he doesn’t want to do.

It shouldn’t be too hard to talk his way out of it, but that’s not the point. The question is why he even gets himself into these situations into the first place. How hard is it to say the word “no”? It’s just two little letters. It would be much better to just say no to things in the first place rather than having to weasel his way out afterwards.

As for the issue of feeling guilty, the guilt tends to be worse when you say yes to everyone, over-commit and end up letting everyone down. Coming up with a suitable excuse that doesn’t sound too familiar ends up making you feel like you’re being calculating and manipulative with your friends. It’s a vicious cycle really.

What about you? Do you have the same problem? How do you counter it?


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17 06 2008
somegosoftly

Only say yes to people that offer cookies.

18 06 2008
Stella

I use the line, ‘Sorry, but I have too much on at the moment.’ No specifics, and it’s never a lie. Let the guilt go. You have to fit your own oxygen mask before you help those around you.

18 06 2008
Mr President

Ahh…smart policy SomeGo. I like cookies.

That’s a really good tip Stella. Simple, no complicated excuse that isn’t true, but simply being honest about your other commitments and not having the time to take on anything else. I like the analogy to the oxygen masks too. Thanks, I’ll try that in future.

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